Another possible owner for Oliver

[Lacie's Mom]

Yesterday was my Grand Jury Duty Day -- terrible day -- 2 murders and 1 horrible child abuse case plus some other stuff.

Anyway, I was talking to my fellow jurers and the court staff about little Oliver. One of the ladies on the Jury would like to adopt Oliver.

She is in her mid-50s, lives alone, has a 7 year old granddaughter that visits but doesn't live with her.

She is willing to work with me on trying to get Oliver's allergies under control. She would like to meet Oliver this weekend and take him home with her.

I'm already so attached. I don't think I'm cut out to be a good foster.

What do you think about this home????

[Yogi's Mom]

Your words--Iam All ready so attached--Well Dear-I think that says it all--Oliver is all ready home. Nickee in Pa*

[chichi]

It sounds good ,Lynn, especially since she is willing to work with Oliver's allergies. Sounds like she needs a little companion. Maybe she will let you visit him.

[luvsmalts]

Sounds like the perfect home, see how the meeting goes.

[Ladysmom]

Sounds like a great home if it checks out. If you honestly don't want to keep Oliver it would be better to find him his forever home as soon as possible. Only you can make that call, though.

[aprilb]

Sounds great to me! Give her a chance with Oliver and see how it goes...it sounds like she has the time...

[Zoe's Mom88]

Sounds great Lynn...better than the first. If the meeting goes well and she will work with you then that is great. Please keep us posted. Good luck!!

[IvysMom]

Look at it from Oliver's point of view. As far as getting attention, is he better off being your 4th dog or her only dog?

I have fostered dogs for many years and there are many I would have liked to have kept (a few we did). But when I have had 2 or 3 or 4 of my own and have another foster, I know s/he is better off going to where he will be someone's primary focus, the love of their life, rather than being my 4th or 5th dog. I would still love him/her but there really are only so many minutes in a day. Plus, if I keep all my "fosters", I would very quickly have to stop fostering which might mean a death sentence to other homeless animals with no where to go.

I encourage you to let the lady come visit him this weekend. Tell her that you are not sure yet, but to come visit. I think if you see that they "click" and you feel secure that he will get lots of love and the medical care he needs, you will feel much better about letting her take him "on trial" with the requirement that he only be returned to you should she no longer be able to care for him for any reason. I always release my fosters telling the people they can bring them back anytime for any reason.

You said many times in previous posts that you did not want a 4th dog. But you are a responsible pet person and have taken on the responsibility of Oliver so now you worry about him which is as it should be. But see how the two do together, then decide. If you still can't let him go even though it looks like the perfect home, then you'll KNOW you are making the right decision to keep him and will never look back.

MODIFYING:

Oh, also meant to mention: You also might want to require a home visit before you let him go to her so you can really see where and how he will be living. This is almost always a requirement for rescue organizations, to have a rescue member inspect the potential home to make sure it is suitable.

[Maisie and Me]

Lynn try to hold off all decisions and anxiety until you see how the meeting goes. Just remember you are not bound to either decision.

[edelweiss]

Originally Posted by IvysMom

Look at it from Oliver's point of view. As far as getting attention, is he better off being your 4th dog or her only dog?

I have fostered dogs for many years and there are many I would have liked to have kept (a few we did). But when I have had 2 or 3 or 4 of my own and have another foster, I know s/he is better off going to where he will be someone's primary focus, the love of their life, rather than being my 4th or 5th dog. I would still love him/her but there really are only so many minutes in a day. Plus, if I keep all my "fosters", I would very quickly have to stop fostering which might mean a death sentence to other homeless animals with no where to go.

I encourage you to let the lady come visit him this weekend. Tell her that you are not sure yet, but to come visit. I think if you see that they "click" and you feel secure that he will get lots of love and the medical care he needs, you will feel much better about letting her take him "on trial" with the requirement that he only be returned to you should she no longer be able to care for him for any reason. I always release my fosters telling the people they can bring them back anytime for any reason.

You said many times in previous posts that you did not want a 4th dog. But you are a responsible pet person and have taken on the responsibility of Oliver so now you worry about him which is as it should be. But see how the two do together, then decide. If you still can't let him go even though it looks like the perfect home, then you'll KNOW you are making the right decision to keep him and will never look back.

MODIFYING:

Oh, also meant to mention: You also might want to require a home visit before you let him go to her so you can really see where and how he will be living. This is almost always a requirement for rescue organizations, to have a rescue member inspect the potential home to make sure it is suitable.

This is excellent advice!