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Old 03-28-2013, 09:02 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Getting frustrated

- barking
- walks
- separation anxiety

When I got my pup at 4 months, it was so easy. Hardly barked and loved going outside. Now at 10 months, barking is excessive, afraid to go outside and howls when I leave. I guess it's my fault because I loved the fact that he followed me everywhere in the house. I played with him when he would carry his toy and drop it in front of me. It was just so cute. Now I'm reading I should initiate and ignore when he does it especially when he barks. I understand that I should be the pact leader but just like a child, you give in and want to spoil them. Also, I work full time that I love giving him all the attention when I get home and weekends. I actually got a dropcam and I can see and hear him using my iPhone when I leave. Boy there' days he howls/whines for 30 minutes. I also notice when I am not giving him attention, he quietly whines. I feel so bad. As for the walking, he heard a loud stupid motorcycle and he just wanted to go back inside. Think that scarred him. I've even given him treats to lure him but just doesn't work.

Sorry this is long. I'm just overwhelmed and frustrated. He is a happy and thank God healthy.. I so want to be a good Mom.... And I know he's only a pup and will get better. Does it??
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Old 03-28-2013, 09:42 PM   #2 (permalink)
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He loves you and wants to be with you! I know it's tough to have a boy with separation anxiety. Have you talked to your vet about getting something to calm him? Or tried something like rescue me? It will take trial and error to figure out.

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Old 03-28-2013, 10:56 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I don't agree that he should not be able to initiate play. Where did you read that?

I do think that it sounds like he needs more socialization and confidence building. You didn't mention, has he ever been to socialization classes?
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Old 03-28-2013, 11:11 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I would try a little bit of rescue remedy for him. By the way you got my attention about the drop camera, please tell me more I need to do this. I have the I phone as well
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Old 03-28-2013, 11:43 PM   #5 (permalink)
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First, stop reading the Caesar Milan books. All that pack leader stuff is nonsense. Go and find a good trainer that utilizes positive training methods. Try to find one that is APDT certified. And you most likely won't find that at Petco or PetSmart. Get him and you going to training together. It will help you to learn how to train him, socialize him and strengthen your dog/owner bond. Good luck!
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Old 03-28-2013, 11:50 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Crap, I just downloaded a couple of Cesar Millan's book... Oh well, they are entertaining if nothing else. I've noticed he talks only about very large dogs...never addresses the smaller lapdogs very much.
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Old 03-28-2013, 11:52 PM   #7 (permalink)
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If you haven't already, I'd find a good trainer and do a private lesson and group classes. Training is great for building confidence and strengthening your relationship with your dog.

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Old 03-29-2013, 12:19 AM   #8 (permalink)
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MiMi barks to initiate play, to get my attention, to get the attention of anybody who comes to visit. For a while it was cute. It is a yap that can make your ears bleed. Lately she has been doing it every time she wants a cookie. Three days ago she started arfing at me to my wits end. Finally, I lost it at screamed at her to shut up. I screamed louder than her arfing. Well, my poor baby looked like she had been totally stricken. But, guess what? The horrible high pitched arfing stopped. Three days and no beasty arfing. I felt so bad, because she looked like I had smacked her in the face. But it worked. That ear splitting arfing is in the past.
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Old 03-29-2013, 02:01 AM   #9 (permalink)
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Sylie, those are the moments I wish you had it on video. Lol. But hey, it worked! And made my smile.

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Old 03-29-2013, 02:26 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Hi Karen

This remind me so much of Biscuit! We too didn't train him right at the beginning and both Mommy and Daddy spoiled him silly. We didn't socialize him much at all so he shy away from socializing with other dogs, actually I think Biscuit doesn't think he's a dog! LOL.... He also have serious separation anxiety if we leave him alone by himself just for mearly minutes. He Barks and Growls, and when we come home finally he whines too!

Bless you for trying to find answers as it show how much you love Angelo! I think you have receive some sound advice there on finding a private trainer! Goodluck and keep us posted on any new development!

By the way! Angelo looks adorable and cute! Please post more pics of Angelo!

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